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Blogger’s Diary; On A Ride To “Shameless’

Shameless

Sometimes I wonder,

  • Can people be so shameless?
  • How do people take actions without caring about what others feel or have got to say?
  • Would I ever be able to become shameless?

We are supposed to care, yes!
The world says we are supposed to feel.
undoubtedly, we are supposed to have others at heart before we do the things we do.

But then, should this always be the case? Should we stay away from being shameless so that we can prevent ourselves from doing things that might hurt those we love, care for and everyone at large?

Overtime, I’ve figured the other path of being shameless, of not caring, of overcoming that limiting part of us and the other half that keeps saying, No!

Successful people are shameless, well to some extent societally.

Being shameless doesn’t always imply a negative attribute you know?

In many instance of its usage; the word “shameless’, is attributed to negative criticism and implies a lack of modesty, sense of decency, or regard for others’ rights or feelings. But leaving its widely placed meaning, it is not always attributed to actions opposed to values.

Largely, to clear your mind off wondering; being shameless doesn’t mean one has no form of decency or is incapable of feeling guilt and regret. Most times, it means not feeling ashamed of who you are today and before, what you go through, what you do or where life has placed you.

What Have I Gained From Being So Ashamed?

I’ve lived on this earth for roughly 2 decades and a few years. In all I’ve found myself living a life I’d never wish on anyone and would never want my kids to take after. A life full of extreme shame, lack of boldness and zeal to overcome my fears. Definitely, everyone has fears which makes the feeling of shame a part of us. Thus it can not be eradicated totally, but then, living a life engulfed by extreme shamefulness is totally absurd.

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Would 2018 Be A Different Year?

While I stepped into this year, I told myself, like I have done occasionally, while stepping into several other years;
“It is time to fight your fears; to rise above shame and to do things the way they are needed to be done.”
Now, I am bluntly tired of having to say things, that I never do because I’ve got that characteristics of mine which has continually limited me and once pushed me to depression.

How Mantra Saved Me From Depression

While I have said the latter even in previous years: this year, seem to be the only year I am attempting to take actions that will help me overcome my fears and extreme shamefulness. Being shameless will definitely not be a bad idea. Especially if you are tired of caring about what the world will have to say about your actions.

Over the years, I have realised that success is not a thing to grab while being full of shame, fear and anxiety.

Even in the most awkward and abnormal situations, people who have achieved success were never ashamed of getting things done.

A man who picks scraps for a living will definitely do better than a man who sits at home; rejecting an offer to pick scraps due to shame.
Like a friend said, “it is okay to get laughed at a thousand times for failing, at least it shows I’m trying”.

Personalized Shameless Bonus

ShamelessI’d love to talk about someone whom I seem to have gotten glued to since 2017… “Shameless Maya”
I discovered her youtube channel through a friend who somehow thought I needed to watch some of her videos. Maya shamelessly promoted herself for 1 year… Now it’s been 6 years and her success has been immerse.
You might want to check her out on youtube

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  • Paramind

    This is why I said everybody with the “Melancholic temperament” and wanna change, needs depression. You see the world different when you survive a depression. This is exactly how I am now, I don’t care shit bout what nobody thinks about me.

  • Oluchi

    I watched a lot of Dr Phil and Oprah that make me think this is coming from a place of hurt or understanding. It’s quite true that people are supposed to care, but it’s not an obligation. Just as long as they’re not unkind and their rights don’t opposingly clash. You’re right though, I believe shameless shouldn’t always been seen in an offensive way. It definitely could be positive.

    Idle head

    • Joseph O.

      Thanks for dropping by! :). I had to see the positive side of shamelessness.

  • Obinna Anyaibe

    Nicely written, Onome! I like how you see the word, shameless, from a whole different angle! If there’s one thing I used to be ashamed of, it’s facing an audience. Be it at church, at school, or even at a small gathering at home, I couldn’t address people without stuttering and mixing up my words. As a result, I stopped voicing out my opinions or suggestions in public, even when I was sure my suggestions or opinions would have yielded a breakthrough. It got so bad that I would whisper my opinions to a friend and ask him to voice it out like it was originally his idea, and that friend would always end up getting the credit. (Not that I care about the credit anyway)

    The thing is, the reasons why we’re often ashamed of something is as absurd as the things we’re ashamed of. I’m just glad I realized that before it completely damaged my self confidence.
    I’ll say it again, very beautiful blog post! Thanks for sharing!

    • Joseph O.

      Oh well, our fears and shamefulness definitely does more harm than good. I can relate, trust me.

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